“Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long time in the land the LORD your God is giving you. [Exodus 20:12].
Thursday, I was in the unfortunate position to hear read the email to David. I was taken aback and wanted to defend myself. Then, the next morning, as per their Mother’s instruction, David forwarded said email to my address.
It is with a sad heart to email you on Mother’s Day to let you know that we are starting down a very scary similar path with Mom….I know that i do not have POA and that I signed papers saying I can never take her to court again so I know that I do not have much power nor do I believe I am up for it again.
The reason I am emailing you is to give a heads up to watch her accounts…I know she has the conservator, Arthur, and I am hoping we can keep him in place so that she does not spend all her money or give it away.
I asked her to go to her counselor here in Atlanta and she said she has an apt as well as with the weird one down on SSI , Dr Devazio (?).
She has started dating a creep – Gae and Dr Andreae’s (the people who live on Sea Island and said she was just eccentric and not bipolar) son named Philip. He is an unemployed international business man that lives in a Fleetwood on Lake Allatoona…not sure of much more and do not really want to know more, but I have an uneasy feeling and my gut says not such a good guy – plus he must know her finances from his parents or at least her history a little…mom does not need to fund him – I realize it is her money and am happy for her to spend it but when it is gone, I am not taking responsibility – I sound harsh but I am talking from my heart.
Not meaning to unload but want you to put whatever legal parameters in that you can and to be prepared for the drama…..
Once again, I wanted to take action!
Throughout the day the following words kept creeping to the front of my head:
“She has started dating a creep – Gae and Dr Andreae’s (the people who live on Sea Island and said she was just eccentric and not bipolar) son named Philip.”
“… I have an uneasy feeling and my gut says not such a good guy – plus he must know her finances from his parents or at least her history a little…mom does not need to fund him …”
Each time these words come into my mind my first reaction is spring to attack. Clearly the author has no idea who their Mother is. They do not have enough trust or respect to believe she knows what she is doing.
Furthermore my father is a very successful Doctor. The author is unaware that he is renowned for his diagnostic abilities. If he as a physician believes someone is eccentric and not bipolar, then, why would a lay person consider impugning the integrity of his assessment?
Through all of this, two teaching brought me back down to earth:
“Suppose someone hits you on your right cheek. Turn your other cheek to him also.”
“How can you say to your friend, ‘Let me take the bit of sawdust out of your eye’? How can you say this while there is a piece of wood in your own eye?”
Finally, one last teaching reminded me that I am not in a position to offer advice, I must remember to be humble, accept life as it comes and always remember these words:
“… You pretender! First take the piece of wood out of your own eye. Then you will be able to see clearly to take the bit of sawdust out of your friend’s eye.”
The only statement I will make on my own behalf is that I will support myself. I will care for those I love and I will always be faithful and true.
THIS IS TO BE DELETED WHEN YOUR MOTHER ASKS ME TO.